Growing up in the early 2000s, I didn’t know that I could go to therapy. I wasn’t aware of the possibility of talking about my feelings with a professional counselor when I needed to; I did that with family and friends. 

Today, I’m an active supporter of talking about your feelings and going to therapy. Even when everything may seem “good,” it’s comforting and therapeutic to talk to a counselor about anything going on in my life—even if there’s nothing to talk about. 

Not everyone needs to be in therapy. Therapy doesn’t have to be a part of your journey, so I urge you to make that decision for yourself. But as I flip through the three feature articles this month, on vulnerability, allowing insecurities to shape who we are and our decisions and on the stigma behind men being vulnerable about their mental health, I think there is a sign of strength in asking for help when we need it.  

It can be difficult for some, if not most, to not only acknowledge our feelings but also share our feelings with others. I used to fall into the habit of shoving my feelings below the surface and trying my hardest not to think about them. But sitting with my feelings and reflecting on them—like asking what they need—is a healthy way to bring those feelings to the surface. When I shoved my feelings below the surface, I ended up feeling more defeated and my emotions went unchecked. When I began to process my feelings, I felt my shoulders loosening up. When I began to open up to my friends, family and a counselor, I felt less alone and understanding that I am loved and cared for. 

One of my favorite Psalms to remember is Psalm 46:1, “God is our refuge and strength, an ever-present help in trouble” (NIV). That word, “refuge,” is a powerful word to use when you’re confiding in someone about your feelings. When you trust someone to hear and understand how you’re feeling, that person becomes your refuge; they provide shelter and keep you safe. 

My hope for you as you read through these feature articles is that you are reminded that you can feel your feelings. Ask your emotions what they need. Sharing how you’re really feeling with those close to you is not a weakness, but a sign of strength. Don’t be afraid to ask for help from those around you who love and care for you. Know that you have a refuge in God, whom you can cast your anxieties on (1 Peter 5:7).