Have you ever encountered drama in your relationships? I’ve been there! That unpleasant situation rears its head unexpectedly in our relationships and rocks them if not handled correctly. 

I remember a time in school. I had a friend. We were close. We were best friends—or at least that’s what I thought! But then, drama appeared more often with this friend than with any other friend. Although we were close, friction remained between us. 

I never could quite understand why. It became hard for me to get along with this friend, and I wondered why that was the case. Looking back, I know God didn’t have a part to play in this drama. 

Drama, especially drama within friendships, is just not fun. However, everybody experiences it in friendship at some point. The critical thing is how we handle it when it appears. So, here are some valuable tips to help you manage drama well. 

Spend Time in Prayer

Talk with God about the problem and the person involved. Drama drains us emotionally, mentally and spiritually. It causes us stress. However, God can help us resolve it without problems when we pray about it. The key is to start by talking to God because He cares the most about you and wants to solve the situation. 

Put Things in Perspective

To put things in context, it’s essential to talk with someone about the situation after talking to God about it. This individual must be a trusted person. You could speak with a parent, a sibling or a trustworthy, genuine friend—a friend whom you know will give you godly, sound advice. It would be best if you choose with whom you decide to share the problem carefully. You can do this in your prayer time. Again, during your prayer time, ask God to lead you to the right people to help you put things in perspective. God can help bring you someone who can adequately help you solve this problem without further damage. When you talk with this trusted person about it, they can help you see the person correctly in a way that wouldn’t ruin your relationship. In addition, speaking with the right person could help you perceive the situation more accurately and even see God at work amid the drama. 

Indeed, it’s always helpful to speak with someone you trust about your problems, but always make sure you let God lead you to the person.

You’ll know when it’s the right person to speak with because they’ll say something that connects with what you’ve been thinking about and aligns with godly principles. Often, the person will give insight based on their experiences, from which you can benefit greatly. 

Speak with the Person Involved

After speaking with God and a trusted family member or godly friend about the dramatic situation, consider talking with the person concerned. Sometimes, the person may be unwilling to give you an audience. But don’t despair. Instead, you can rest assured that you wanted the friendship to work. Moreover, it may be time for you to let that friendship go. But if the person is willing to talk about it, give the relationship another chance. The person may have hurt you, but at least you can speak to the person about it, too. 

If the person is open to having that vital conversation and accepts responsibility, that’s a mark of a true friend and one who wants to work on the friendship. If the friend is genuinely sorry and apologizes, it’s essential to forgive. If the situation worsens because they cannot handle the truth, you should return to God and ask Him how to proceed. 

The key here is to attempt to resolve the issue: If God restores the friendship in the process, great! If God doesn’t fix the relationship, trust Him to give you the companionship that will bring you joy and peace. When drama arises, you must preserve your peace of mind at all costs, and God will help you do that.

While drama can be messy, we serve a God who can help us through such chaotic situations. We must trust Him and know He has our best interests at heart. Constant drama can cause us continuous stress, which we don’t need. What we desire is friendships filled with joy, happiness and peace. If these things are lacking in a relationship, it’s challenging to sustain it.

Nonetheless, be sensitive to God; He’ll tell you what to do in such situations. Yes, “The Lord says, ‘I will guide you along the best pathway for your life. I will advise you and watch over you’” (Psalm 32:8). Let God be the One to guide you in all your relationships so that you’ll honor Him and enjoy the peace only He can provide.