The beginning of the school year rolls in like a fresh notebook: crisp, full of potential, and just waiting to be filled. Memories of my many first days of school come rushing back: strolling down the school hallways for the first time in three months, saying “hi” to old friends you haven’t seen in a while, and meeting new teachers. 

The first day can be intimidating! Here are nine unwritten rules to keep in mind as you unpack your backpacks. 

Respect everyone’s fresh start.

September can serve as a reset at the beginning of a new school year. Whether someone is reinventing themselves or trying to stay afloat, give grace. Begin again. 

Don’t be afraid to say “hi” first.

It’s not weird. It’s kind. Whether in the hallway, dining hall or dorm, a simple “hey” can open doors to new friendships. 

Be cool with (and respect) staff members.

A smile and thank you go a long way. These staff members work hard — and often remember the students who treat them with kindness. 

Don’t hog nor ignore the group project.

Collaboration is key. Being the hero or the ghost of a group project helps no one. Communicate, contribute, and share the credit. 

Don’t be “that person” in class.

Be engaged, not disrespectful. Avoid talking over others, asking questions to show off, or texting. 

Don’t judge people’s time.

Some students work multiple jobs. Some are full-time athletes. Some are just trying to survive. Everyone’s journey is different. Respect their grind. 

You don’t have to have it all figured out.

It’s okay to not know your major, your career path, or your weekend plans. Growth takes time. 

Be the friend you wish you had.

Check in on people. Invite the quiet kid to lunch. Share your notes. Small acts of kindness can not only change someone’s semester, but life. 

Check in with yourself.

It’s easy to get caught up in grades, social life, and expectations. But your mental, emotional, and spiritual health matters. Take time to rest, reflect, and recharge. You can’t pour from an empty cup.

Illustration by Lan Truong